“If you can’t be with the one you love, honey, love the one you’re with.” ~ Crosby Stills Nash and Young.
Wherever you go there you are. It’s a stupid saying. Sometimes I’d like to get away from myself because I’m not always easy to live with.
I think mindset is closely associated with that desire to get away from yourself. You would probably want to be you if you liked yourself better. Sure, there’s plenty of other reasons to not want to be present with yourself and/or your current situation. When you don’t like yourself, however, everything else doesn’t matter.
There are some things you can do to like yourself right here, right now.
CBT baby. I always preach cognitive behavioral therapy techniques because they work! What did your inner voice say to you right before you felt the need to disown yourself? You can do challenging, re-framing, etc. when you’re clear about what you said inside your head.
Change the scene. Go outside. Switch rooms, Daydream another locale if it’s not practical to move. Get away from the thing that triggered the thought, even it it’s in your imagination of a better place/time.
Remember Maslow. Take care of the fundamentals. Drink water. Have a snack. Take a nap. If you’re body needs something, you’re going to be cranky. Trust me, your mood will improve if you’re not hangry.
Breathe. I hold my breath when I’m anxious. Some of that tension lifts when I practice pranayama.
Distract yourself. Read a book, watch a movie, work out, call a friend, do some prep cooking for a few days worth of meals, etc. etc.
And, maybe most importantly, simply sit with the feeling for awhile. Notice the bodily sensations associated with the thoughts. Is your chest tight? Shoulders hunched up? Butterflies in tummy? Words caught in your throat?
All thoughts and emotions will pass. Allowing yourself to feel and to accept the present as it is, in my experience, one of the fasted ways to move my mind back into loving the one I’m with: myself.